Explain the Duties of Husband toward her Wife and Vice Versa as per Islam ?

sura 4:34 instructs muslims to beat their disobedient wives; bukhari vol. 7 book 62 #132 the prophet said, '' no man should flog his wife as he flogs a slave and then have sexual intercourse with her in the last part of the day; they are several suras and hadiths like these. so please! read the quran and hadiths and learn ther truth. muslims only know what their imams tell them and refuse to read the quran, other than a few cherry picked verses.